The decision to either raise your child or to make an adoption plan will undoubtedly be filled with many emotions – you may feel as if you are on a never-ending roller coaster ride. Before you do make a decision, you owe it to yourself and to your baby to get all the facts that you can about adoption.
Adoption has changed considerably in the last thirty to forty years, and today many birthmothers are choosing an option that is called open adoption. This is an adoption in which the birth parent/s and the adoptive families meet and actually have a commitment to ongoing contact. The degree of “openness” varies from case to case, but it does allow the birthparent/s and the adoptive parents to develop an adoption plan that will work for the birthparent and the adoptive parents as well as the child.
Choices a Birthparent is Given
Through the process of open adoption, birthparents actually are given quite a few choices, which can be empowering. They include:
“But I could never give up my baby!”
“The majority of young women in your situation feel the same way initially. However, rarely does an unmarried pregnant woman stop to consider the tremendous cost and responsibility of choosing single motherhood. Successful childrearing, while greatly rewarding, is also very demanding, even for two-parent families. It requires a great deal of time, self-sacrifice and financial expense. Almost without exception, birthmothers who choose an adoptive family for their baby later say it was the right decision. Yes, you will experience some grief temporarily, but you will be supported by caring counselors and the knowledge that you made the best decision for your baby.”
Source Material; “Choosing the Best for Your Baby: Deciding Between Adoption and Single Motherhood”; Focus on the Family © 2001, 2005
Coming in to talk to us about the possibility of making an adoption plan does not commit you to going through with an adoption. You do owe it to yourself and your child to get the facts. We’d love to talk with you (no pressure) and to give you an informational packet on the adoption option. Call one of our centers to make an appointment.